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Try as I might, I can’t remember having met anybody in my life who was satisfied with his or her sex life and didn’t want to change anything. And it’s not that sex was bad or anything. People simply want a lot of variation in their sex lives; they are always searching for the elusive “something else”. That’s how they get to enacting fantasies, using toys and other props, looking for new sex partners, trying different moods and locations, Or using alcohol and drugs to spice things up. Judging from the fast lives people have today and from their interest in being entertained all the time, I’d say there’s a lot of spice going around.
The top problem with drugs is that different people respond in different ways. This means there’s no guarantee as to the effects, much less when moods can also interfere with drugs. The second biggest problem is that drugs interfere with the flow of blood, motivation or arousal response. Let’s take a look at the most common drugs and their effects on love-making.
LSD, mescaline, psilocybin (magic mushrooms) and all the other psychedelic substances should really be left only to artists and adventurer types. The effects are much too unpredictable to be of any consistent use. While it’s true that these psychoactive substances make people much more aware of each other, they are also very unlikely to promote sexual arousal. Bad hallucinations and moods could turn sex into a traumatic trip best left outside your range of experiences.
Stimulants come next. Cocaine and amphetamines are stimulants of the nervous system and people take them to feel the cool rush to the brain. But they don’t always mix well with sex. Both cocaine and amphetamines are known to cause problems with achieving erections and orgasms. While making orgasm more difficult is a recipe for longer sex, this could also lead to chaffing of the intimate parts, something which is highly NOT recommended.
The same goes for opiates. Drugs like opium, codeine, morphine and heroin are well-known for decreasing the libido and making erections more difficult. And it’s only fair, if I may say so. The 30 seconds of pleasure given by sex are a poor match to the four or eight hours of euphoria and tranquillity generated by opiates. People who use opiates tend to experience solitary pleasures and do not feel the need to share that is crucial for sex. On the other hand, the self-contained sense of peace given by heroin is not the same as the shared moments of peace that bind a couple.
Ecstasy is yet another risky choice. Although MDMA makes people like each other, it is not recommended for sex. MDMA is more of an empathy drug that opens people up and makes them comfortable with themselves and friendly to others. Just like some of the above-mentioned substances, MDMA interferes with the sympathetic nervous system and impairs erections. Some Ecstasy users seek to offset this effect by taking Viagra at the same time as Ecstasy, which is not a good idea.
Arguably, the most important effect of all drugs is the obliteration of inhibitions and self-consciousness, which allows partners to enjoy sex more and to act out all repressed fantasies. However, the loss of inhibitions is also the reason why users of recreational drugs have unprotected sex with perfect strangers who don’t always mean well. Having a blast in bed is a great experience. Waking up with various STDs, without the wallet and keys and at a completely unknown location next to a completely unknown person who doesn’t look as good as she/he did last night, is not.
In the end, the choice is yours. If you want to take a chance and risk your health and life, a simple article isn’t going to stop you. Still, for your sake try to pause and think before taking any unnecessary risks. Have fun, but stay safe.
What is the G spot?
The G-spot is, arguably, one of the best known medical discoveries of the past century. There are dozens of discoveries that help people suffering from various conditions, but none has made its way into the pop culture as the sensitive area first described by German gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg in 1950. From the first G-spot hype that took place in the ‘80s and on to the present day, the G-spot has been a source of wonder and exploration for men seeking to give their ladies the coveted “fuck of the century”.
The exact nature and function of the G-spot is still debated. While it is generally acknowledged that the G-spot is a sensitive area located on the vaginal wall, behind the pubic bone and surrounding the urethra. Initially, the G-spot was thought to be a simple bundle of nerves located in or around the vaginal walls. However, it was argued in 1984 that the spot is actually part of the urethral sponge, the spongy cushion of tissues that prevents urination during sex. Therefore, the G-spot may be a sensitive spot designed to help the engorgement of the urethral sponge.
Another theory regarding the function of the G-spot claims that the spot may help during childbirth. It has been stated that the child’s head strikes the G-spot during birth, thus triggering a final push on the part of the mother in order to complete the birth process. However, other scientists suggested that the spot is simply an area where the nerves linking the clitoris to the spinal column are closer to the surface and easier to stimulate. As you can see, the actual function of the G-spot is still a matter of debate among experts.
On the other hand, this did not prevent men and women from searching the G-spot and taking advantage of the pleasure it can offer. Before starting your search for the G-spot you should know that no two women are alike. This means that the G-spot will not be in exactly the same place every time and that different women respond to stimulation in different ways. For some is pure heaven, for others it’s a stifled yawn and a “Could we try something else, dear?”.
To find the G-spot, insert a finger into the vagina, with the fingertips toward the pubic bone. Make sure your nails are cut down short before you do this and use lubrication if you have to, or your lady is bound to get an injury instead of pleasure. Press up toward the belly in the area behind the pubic bone while moving your finger (or fingers, if you wish) in small circles. The G-spot should be somewhere around the place where your fingertips are, about two inches inside the vagina.
When you find the G-spot, start moving your fingers as if you’re strumming a guitar. This should stimulate the area quite good. Actually, once you’ve found it, use your imagination to find different moves and ask your partner which one feels better. You can also try stimulating the clitoris at the same time in order to give her even more pleasure. It’s all up to you and her. Have fun.
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